BACK AND BETTER THAN EVER!!!
Hey All,
I’m back again. I pretty much stopped writing because I was very busy doing things with my girlfriend. To make a long story short she and I broke up a long time ago. She is now happily married and I wish her and hers my best.
It was difficult for a while, but like most people, I just started indulging my interests and examining my life. It’s funny how things work out. I traded D&D in for endless days of golf. I haven’t played for over a year and a half. I still get the itch sometimes, but most of the group has moved away. I’ve been to about a dozen OU games and the biggest and most happy news is I’m now engaged. Our wedding will be May 23rd 2009.
Friends:
Chuck is TDY over seas and working hard to keep our country safe. His wife Becka threw his son Mark a wonderful party for his 2ond birthday. He was nothing but smiles all day long.
Calin and his wife finally got divorced. He has his permanent green card now and met another girl. They lived together for about a year before they decided to break up. He got a job offer in Dallas and moved there a few weekends ago.
Adam and Christen finally got off their butts and saved enough money to move away from Oklahoma. They moved to Oregon on 10/19/08. Christen worked really hard to make the move possible. She flew out to Oregon about a month before they were ready to move. Found them a place to live and got a job. She has already started work and after a few hiccups they finally got their stuff moved in. They still need to buy some new furniture, but that is waiting until Adam gets a job. He hasn’t been slacking. I already got a call from an employer asking me for a reference.
Shane got married and has two kids. He spends the majority of his time doing the husband, daddy, work thing.
Aaron is seriously considering moving out here when he comes out for our wedding. I have to say that I’m happy to hear that.
Family Circus:
Dad had a heart attack and a few surgeries to get that taken care of almost a year ago. We are all thankful that he has recovered. It was a pretty stressful time for our family.
Mom has finally gotten a job as a church secretary out here. I’m glad to see that she is working again.
Other than that they have both been going to church and enjoying their grandchildren. They have two new ones. A new born named Amelia courtesy of Beth and a wonderful little four year old named Kylie courtesy of my soon to be bride.
Beth and Brian are still hanging in there. God only knows how they do it. I think I would lose my mind if I had three kids, but then I ran into an old friend last week who has four kids; then I didn’t feel so bad for Beth and Brian. Beth has also been acting as the wedding planner for Kasey and I. Her help has been a great relief and a blessing.
Bug is getting bigger and bigger every day. He has been enjoying soccer, loves video games, and has been doing great in school. Beth says that he’s been soaking it up like a sponge.
Natty has been learning a lot also. She enjoys playing with her brother and was very excited to tell me that she is now in gymnastics. She is pretty much a girly girl, but has no fear. She can’t wait to go climbing with me. Watching Bug and her reminds me so much of growing up with my sister. It cracks me up.
Amelia, their newest and youngest is pretty much that. She is standing with assistance now and can hold up her head. Other than that she does pretty typical baby stuff. She was exposed to chicken pox and hasn’t been vaccinated. She should start getting sick around Turkey Day if she is going to get them. Keep her in your prayers.
Our House:
My lease on my apartment was running out, so Kasey and I decided to buy a house. We’re all adjusting to our new living situation, it can be a little difficult sometimes, but for the most part everything is going well. Like a fool I was deluding myself into thinking that it was only Kasey and Kylie that were having to adjust. I didn’t think that I was having to adjust to anything until one day. That fateful day I had just gotten home from work and Kasey and Kylie were cuddled up in my recliner, watching cartoons that I didn’t particular want to watch on my TV. The night before, they were playing on my computer and Kylie was climbing around on the back of my computer chair. Kasey had also loaned out a few of my DVDs to her sister. I was perturbed and I went to our room to change out of my work clothes. While I was changing, I realized the big adjustment that I had to make; I had to adjust “my” to “our.” On the lighter side of things I’m really enjoying having a house. I’ve been able to do stuff that I’ve wanted to do for a very long time. I’ve made three benches, watched our TV and listened to the radio as loud as I wanted to without having to worry about disturbing the neighbors etc…It’s been great.
Kasey also loves our house. She’s had several adjustments to make as well. Most of her adjustments have to do with how she’s raising her daughter. They are changes that she has wanted to make for a long time, but is finally getting to make now that we have our own house. She is also having to adjust to having an indoor dog also. Both are going very well for her. Ironically, Kasey had mentioned making Sadie sleep on the floor and not allowing her on the bed or other furniture. Apparently Sadie and her have reached a compromise. Sadie will stay off the furniture most of the time as long as she gets to cuddle in bed at night. Basically, Kasey got cold and called Sadie onto the bed. It was over after that.
Kylie has also been adjusting well. I’ve been very impressed with her. She is a little grumpy in the morning, but other than that has been doing really well. She puts up a little bit of a fight eating dinner, but Kasey sticks to her guns and ultimately Kylie eats. She has been finding out that she likes different things which is good for her. She has also been getting used to Sadie. Her biggest complaint is the smell of Sadie’s breath. She has enjoyed playing hide and seek, using Sadie to find her mom and I when it’s her turn to count. Hours of fetch in the back yard, and most days will not leave for school in the morning until she has told Sadie goodbye and pet her head a few times.
Sadie has been having the easiest time of all. She has been eating better and been more energetic. She has been behaving very well and she is starting to lay down at my feet when we eat dinner. Other than the bed, she has been staying off the furniture unless she has been invited up. I do have the sneaking suspicion that she cuddles up on the couch when we leave for work, I just haven’t been able to prove it. She loves having her back yard and being able to bark whenever she wants. She’s made a new friend with one of the neighbors dogs and loves playing chase with him in the front yard. She has also been tearing up and down one side of the back yard along the fence taking turns barking at different dogs belonging to different neighbors.
All in all, things are going really well. The stress of finding a house is out of the way, but somehow it seems that we are just as busy planning for the holidays and planning for a wedding.
The Wedding:
Best Man: Adam Baker
Groomsmen:
Matt
Chuck
Aaron
Brian
The wedding planning has been going pretty well. We’ve got a church and thought we had a preacher, but apparently that fell through, so we are in the market again. We’ve paid for a reception hall, and still owe 350 on it and for 250 we’ve got a band lined up to play at our reception. We still have a ton of stuff to do. We are going to a bridal show tonight. I realize that I wrote stuff in the past about weddings. Now that I’m actually doing one, I take it all back. The more money we spend and the more time and energy spent planning it the more I just want to pack it all in and elope. On the flip side I’m sure that it all be worth it when the time comes. I very thankful that Kasey hasn’t turned into a bridezilla…
Sadie’s Corner:
I love my new house and family. I could spend hours running around in the back yard or playing with my new friend. I’ve got a girl now and she plays with me. My biggest dilemma is who I should follow around the house.
Woof for now,
Sadie
Commentary:
Back to my favorite radio station, KJ103 (102.7); TJ, Janet, and JRod in the Morning brought up another interesting topic. This man’s wife called in saying that she was good friends with her husband’s best friend’s wife. She stated that her husband and his best friend were at there house talking one night and that she overheard the best friend tell her husband that he was cheating on his wife. She wanted to know what she should do. Should she tell her good friend? Should she talk to her husband? The DJs made some very good points, and ultimately I agree with them that she needs to talk to her own husband. She said that she was upset that her husband hadn’t come to her about it.
I think that first of all, new of that sort is always potentially relationship ending news. Not only could a marriage possibly fail because of it, but it could also ruin friendships. Even if it turns out that the guy was not cheating the friendships could all still end.
First of all I had a problem with some of the missing information. The wife stated that she had overheard this. To me that pretty much equates to she was walking by the room they were in and heard the best friend say “I’m cheating on my wife.” If she heard any more than that, enough to know that he really was cheating and he wasn’t recounting a tale, the wife was eavesdropping not overhearing.
So, if she overheard him say that talking to her husband could confirm weather or not he was recounting a tale such as: “Man I was at work the other day and my partner came up to me and just flat out said, I’m cheating on my wife.” If she heard the conversation go something like this and was eavesdropping “I don’t know what to do bro, I’m cheating on my wife.” It is apparent to me that there is a trust issue in the relationship already which could account for the husband not telling his wife. In the first situation the husband might not have thought that it was important to tell the wife.
For arguments sake, lets pretend that the wife had accidentally overheard enough of the conversation to know for sure that the best friend had been cheating on his wife. What are some other reasons that her husband might not have told her about it? 1. It’s her friend that is being cheated on. Maybe he doesn’t want to put his wife in an awkward position. 2. Maybe he’s still chewing it over and doesn’t know what he thinks about it or what course of action he thinks should be taken and doesn’t want to talk to his wife about it until he does.
My point is that it really is a good idea to talk to the husband. Possible implications of talking to the friend could be that not only has she betrayed her husbands best friend’s trust, but her husband’s trust. Ultimately they should decide on the right course of action to take together because they are both risking the loss of friends by what ever course of action that they choose.
I’d want to know if I were the friend. If I found out that I was being cheated on and that one of my friends knew about it and didn’t tell me that would end the friendship. If they did tell me, I might be mad at them for a while, but eventually I’d get over it. Even if they were wrong, I’d still be mad, but eventually I’d realize that they were being a friend. If I didn’t believe them, that would be on me and eventually I’d reconcile with my friend. I think if they end their friendship with you because you are the messenger, then they aren’t a real friend anyway.
Until next time…
I’m back again. I pretty much stopped writing because I was very busy doing things with my girlfriend. To make a long story short she and I broke up a long time ago. She is now happily married and I wish her and hers my best.
It was difficult for a while, but like most people, I just started indulging my interests and examining my life. It’s funny how things work out. I traded D&D in for endless days of golf. I haven’t played for over a year and a half. I still get the itch sometimes, but most of the group has moved away. I’ve been to about a dozen OU games and the biggest and most happy news is I’m now engaged. Our wedding will be May 23rd 2009.
Friends:
Chuck is TDY over seas and working hard to keep our country safe. His wife Becka threw his son Mark a wonderful party for his 2ond birthday. He was nothing but smiles all day long.
Calin and his wife finally got divorced. He has his permanent green card now and met another girl. They lived together for about a year before they decided to break up. He got a job offer in Dallas and moved there a few weekends ago.
Adam and Christen finally got off their butts and saved enough money to move away from Oklahoma. They moved to Oregon on 10/19/08. Christen worked really hard to make the move possible. She flew out to Oregon about a month before they were ready to move. Found them a place to live and got a job. She has already started work and after a few hiccups they finally got their stuff moved in. They still need to buy some new furniture, but that is waiting until Adam gets a job. He hasn’t been slacking. I already got a call from an employer asking me for a reference.
Shane got married and has two kids. He spends the majority of his time doing the husband, daddy, work thing.
Aaron is seriously considering moving out here when he comes out for our wedding. I have to say that I’m happy to hear that.
Family Circus:
Dad had a heart attack and a few surgeries to get that taken care of almost a year ago. We are all thankful that he has recovered. It was a pretty stressful time for our family.
Mom has finally gotten a job as a church secretary out here. I’m glad to see that she is working again.
Other than that they have both been going to church and enjoying their grandchildren. They have two new ones. A new born named Amelia courtesy of Beth and a wonderful little four year old named Kylie courtesy of my soon to be bride.
Beth and Brian are still hanging in there. God only knows how they do it. I think I would lose my mind if I had three kids, but then I ran into an old friend last week who has four kids; then I didn’t feel so bad for Beth and Brian. Beth has also been acting as the wedding planner for Kasey and I. Her help has been a great relief and a blessing.
Bug is getting bigger and bigger every day. He has been enjoying soccer, loves video games, and has been doing great in school. Beth says that he’s been soaking it up like a sponge.
Natty has been learning a lot also. She enjoys playing with her brother and was very excited to tell me that she is now in gymnastics. She is pretty much a girly girl, but has no fear. She can’t wait to go climbing with me. Watching Bug and her reminds me so much of growing up with my sister. It cracks me up.
Amelia, their newest and youngest is pretty much that. She is standing with assistance now and can hold up her head. Other than that she does pretty typical baby stuff. She was exposed to chicken pox and hasn’t been vaccinated. She should start getting sick around Turkey Day if she is going to get them. Keep her in your prayers.
Our House:
My lease on my apartment was running out, so Kasey and I decided to buy a house. We’re all adjusting to our new living situation, it can be a little difficult sometimes, but for the most part everything is going well. Like a fool I was deluding myself into thinking that it was only Kasey and Kylie that were having to adjust. I didn’t think that I was having to adjust to anything until one day. That fateful day I had just gotten home from work and Kasey and Kylie were cuddled up in my recliner, watching cartoons that I didn’t particular want to watch on my TV. The night before, they were playing on my computer and Kylie was climbing around on the back of my computer chair. Kasey had also loaned out a few of my DVDs to her sister. I was perturbed and I went to our room to change out of my work clothes. While I was changing, I realized the big adjustment that I had to make; I had to adjust “my” to “our.” On the lighter side of things I’m really enjoying having a house. I’ve been able to do stuff that I’ve wanted to do for a very long time. I’ve made three benches, watched our TV and listened to the radio as loud as I wanted to without having to worry about disturbing the neighbors etc…It’s been great.
Kasey also loves our house. She’s had several adjustments to make as well. Most of her adjustments have to do with how she’s raising her daughter. They are changes that she has wanted to make for a long time, but is finally getting to make now that we have our own house. She is also having to adjust to having an indoor dog also. Both are going very well for her. Ironically, Kasey had mentioned making Sadie sleep on the floor and not allowing her on the bed or other furniture. Apparently Sadie and her have reached a compromise. Sadie will stay off the furniture most of the time as long as she gets to cuddle in bed at night. Basically, Kasey got cold and called Sadie onto the bed. It was over after that.
Kylie has also been adjusting well. I’ve been very impressed with her. She is a little grumpy in the morning, but other than that has been doing really well. She puts up a little bit of a fight eating dinner, but Kasey sticks to her guns and ultimately Kylie eats. She has been finding out that she likes different things which is good for her. She has also been getting used to Sadie. Her biggest complaint is the smell of Sadie’s breath. She has enjoyed playing hide and seek, using Sadie to find her mom and I when it’s her turn to count. Hours of fetch in the back yard, and most days will not leave for school in the morning until she has told Sadie goodbye and pet her head a few times.
Sadie has been having the easiest time of all. She has been eating better and been more energetic. She has been behaving very well and she is starting to lay down at my feet when we eat dinner. Other than the bed, she has been staying off the furniture unless she has been invited up. I do have the sneaking suspicion that she cuddles up on the couch when we leave for work, I just haven’t been able to prove it. She loves having her back yard and being able to bark whenever she wants. She’s made a new friend with one of the neighbors dogs and loves playing chase with him in the front yard. She has also been tearing up and down one side of the back yard along the fence taking turns barking at different dogs belonging to different neighbors.
All in all, things are going really well. The stress of finding a house is out of the way, but somehow it seems that we are just as busy planning for the holidays and planning for a wedding.
The Wedding:
Best Man: Adam Baker
Groomsmen:
Matt
Chuck
Aaron
Brian
The wedding planning has been going pretty well. We’ve got a church and thought we had a preacher, but apparently that fell through, so we are in the market again. We’ve paid for a reception hall, and still owe 350 on it and for 250 we’ve got a band lined up to play at our reception. We still have a ton of stuff to do. We are going to a bridal show tonight. I realize that I wrote stuff in the past about weddings. Now that I’m actually doing one, I take it all back. The more money we spend and the more time and energy spent planning it the more I just want to pack it all in and elope. On the flip side I’m sure that it all be worth it when the time comes. I very thankful that Kasey hasn’t turned into a bridezilla…
Sadie’s Corner:
I love my new house and family. I could spend hours running around in the back yard or playing with my new friend. I’ve got a girl now and she plays with me. My biggest dilemma is who I should follow around the house.
Woof for now,
Sadie
Commentary:
Back to my favorite radio station, KJ103 (102.7); TJ, Janet, and JRod in the Morning brought up another interesting topic. This man’s wife called in saying that she was good friends with her husband’s best friend’s wife. She stated that her husband and his best friend were at there house talking one night and that she overheard the best friend tell her husband that he was cheating on his wife. She wanted to know what she should do. Should she tell her good friend? Should she talk to her husband? The DJs made some very good points, and ultimately I agree with them that she needs to talk to her own husband. She said that she was upset that her husband hadn’t come to her about it.
I think that first of all, new of that sort is always potentially relationship ending news. Not only could a marriage possibly fail because of it, but it could also ruin friendships. Even if it turns out that the guy was not cheating the friendships could all still end.
First of all I had a problem with some of the missing information. The wife stated that she had overheard this. To me that pretty much equates to she was walking by the room they were in and heard the best friend say “I’m cheating on my wife.” If she heard any more than that, enough to know that he really was cheating and he wasn’t recounting a tale, the wife was eavesdropping not overhearing.
So, if she overheard him say that talking to her husband could confirm weather or not he was recounting a tale such as: “Man I was at work the other day and my partner came up to me and just flat out said, I’m cheating on my wife.” If she heard the conversation go something like this and was eavesdropping “I don’t know what to do bro, I’m cheating on my wife.” It is apparent to me that there is a trust issue in the relationship already which could account for the husband not telling his wife. In the first situation the husband might not have thought that it was important to tell the wife.
For arguments sake, lets pretend that the wife had accidentally overheard enough of the conversation to know for sure that the best friend had been cheating on his wife. What are some other reasons that her husband might not have told her about it? 1. It’s her friend that is being cheated on. Maybe he doesn’t want to put his wife in an awkward position. 2. Maybe he’s still chewing it over and doesn’t know what he thinks about it or what course of action he thinks should be taken and doesn’t want to talk to his wife about it until he does.
My point is that it really is a good idea to talk to the husband. Possible implications of talking to the friend could be that not only has she betrayed her husbands best friend’s trust, but her husband’s trust. Ultimately they should decide on the right course of action to take together because they are both risking the loss of friends by what ever course of action that they choose.
I’d want to know if I were the friend. If I found out that I was being cheated on and that one of my friends knew about it and didn’t tell me that would end the friendship. If they did tell me, I might be mad at them for a while, but eventually I’d get over it. Even if they were wrong, I’d still be mad, but eventually I’d realize that they were being a friend. If I didn’t believe them, that would be on me and eventually I’d reconcile with my friend. I think if they end their friendship with you because you are the messenger, then they aren’t a real friend anyway.
Until next time…
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